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We have all had toxic people dust us with their poison. Difficult people are drawn to the reasonable ones and all of us have likely had or have at least one person in our lives who have us bending around Whats tryin to make friend like barbed wire in endless attempts to please them — only to never really get there.
Being able to spot their harmful behaviour is the first step to minimising their impact. You might not be able to change what they do, but you can change what you do with it, and any idea that toxic somebody in your life might have that they can get away with it. There are Whats tryin to make friend of things toxic people do to manipulate people and situations to their advantage. Here are 12 of them. Knowing them will help you to avoid falling under the influence:. When this happens, you might find yourself making excuses for them or doing everything you can to make them happy.
See why it works for them? Stop trying to please them. Toxic people figured out a long time ago that decent people will go to extraordinary lengths to keep the people they care about happy. Walk away and come back when the mood has shifted. If you have done something unknowingly to hurt somebody, ask, talk about it and if need be, apologise. Toxic people have a way of sending out the vibe that you owe them something. They also have a way of taking from you or doing something that hurts you, then maintaining they were doing it all for you.
This is particularly common in workplaces or relationships where the balance of power is out. For Remember that. Just move forward — without them. Some people want to be right more than they want to be happy and you have better things to do than to provide fodder for the right-fighters. Are you sure you want to go? The message might be innocent enough but the tone conveys so much more. Mine was awful. Just awful.
Meanwhile, your initial need is well gone on the pile of unfinished conversations that seems to grow bigger by the day. We all get it wrong sometimes but toxic people will make sure you know it. You can always say no to unnecessary crazy. Be confident and own your own faults, your quirks and the things that make you shine.
I was married to a psychopath whom I loved very much. Never good enough for her. She once told me I annoyed her because I am always so happy. In the end I just walked away. I sometimes wonder if toxic works both ways though. Sometimes two people can work really well for a while then they grow apart, and sometimes people are like fire and ice and destroy each other from the beginning.
Sometimes, when one person is toxic, the impact can be devastating. You deserve to be with someone who loves you for everything you are. And when I was in it — the irrational seemed completely rational. Can I help my girlfriend if 2 years who dies do great things, but I feel like a legit tower she builds and kicks over and over and over. I just changed my career and builty woodshop in her garage now she had been fighting with me, except I am not fighting and my life is crumbling. She gets angry when things happen as a result of the unacknowlwdged problem.
I am just now learning who is toxic in my life. I reckon none of this is fixable? Apparently that safe space should have been for me. I was new to the school and at the moment she was having trouble with her best friend so she went to me. But then one random day she said her friend has changed and we have gotten no where ever since then. I feel like a second option compared to her other friend.
I have tried to tell her how I feel but it ends up just starting an argument.
I have tried to let her go but then I just start crying and it gets even worse. What should I do? I feel ya there. One dynamic gem is enough compared to having all seven fingers and two thumbs draped with various diamonds, sizes and colors; and yet still having more that one can hardly decide which to wear.
I find myself more at peace and purging all the toxic residue from myself. I really like my Inner light shining as brightly as it can. As for me, I be remiss if I failed to say Who and a What that light is for and to me. They just want what they want. Whats tryin to make friend just want to be me; and be protected from anything and anyone who wishes to do me harm; in the seen and in the UNseen dangers.
Whilest I believe there are truly good peoples out here; I have learned that there are evil hearted and or good people doing wrong things for right reasons no intentions to hurt ; but someone gets hurt anyways; I want to be protected from that hurt. I could be like a beacon, or a target; and really the two are the same. Whatever the situation. Whatever the person. Give all our worries and care to That Greater IN us.
Reading this had made me realise that my sister-in-laws behaviour is indeed that of a narcissist. She was nice to me a few years ago before my husband her brother and I got married and as soon as the wedding was over she reverted back to being a nightmare, causing me to avoid as many family gatherings as I could.
She is always putting others down, with the exception of her mother who just adds fire to the flames by never challenging her appaling behaviour. I seized an opportunity to repair our relationship recently, she twisted it round on me and played the victim, making me feel guilty. Eventually will a narcissist like my sister-in-law ever out herself. Decide with your husband what the rules of contact with our sister in law are going to be. Imagine it more as you pulling away than you pushing her away.
Family relationships have so many levels to them and there are so many factors involved. It really depends on the relationship and the personalities of the others in the family as to how they will respond to her. Hopefully when you move out her capacity to hurt you will diminish. My daughter is 31 and constantly tries to criticize me no matter what I try to do.
Towards a home she informed me that she has set up boundaries and I could only stay overnight if I was invited. I live in NCshe lives In. She is very disrespectful and uses foul language to be abusive. She learned this behavior from her father who is a alcoholic and drug user.
I divorced him after 13 years of a very abusive marriage. I just give up on thinking that we will ever be close. Of course that is my fault to.
She had never admitted she was wrong or apologized to me. She projects all her anger on me and she bullies me with filthy language. What can I possibly do with this situation? What an intolerable situation and one that you could seriously come to harm in. Being bullied when you are frail and in pain is life threatening.
It could cut your life short and reduce your capacity and fitness. I think you need to ask for help and support from a tangible source — not on line. You need a physical presence of help. I am not sure if going to the GP or contacting a bullying help service especially to protect you from elder abuse. I hope you can make a change for yourself by asking for help.
Most do not have Family that would do that even if they did have the money. Mine got totaled accidentally by her Daughter, my Grand-daughter. I think she is very selfish for that. Reading your comment completely applied to my whole family-in-law except My father-in-law.
Word for word is how they are!! I am not really sure My husband sees them as toxic as I do though. I mean maybe I am over reacting and over thinking? I dont know. If she is that manipulative, selfish and nasty, why have you stayed there for 6 months?. Surely a wise course of action would be to avoid this psycho altogether.
You can always live in rental accommodation until you move home. Hi I have been with my partner 22 years we have two daughters 22 and 16 and I have no affection from him. As others have said, putting boundaries in place and never being alone with her if possible might shame her into not being rude etc if others are noticing her bad behaviour. This deflects the attention away from you onto someone who is better able to handle it.
Limit the amount of time you spend around her, excuse yourself to leave or pretend you have an appointment to go to. Thank you for your article Karen. I just wanted to share that when I read the 3rd paragraph my heart lept out of my chest! For as long as I remember I have lived in mistrust of my emotions, believing that I was over-reactive, overemotional and misconstruing.
I cannot describe the weight that has been lifted and the clarity I now have from seeing the exact words, names I thought described me. It was never me at all! Just chiming in to say thank you for this post. It is a source of great calm for me right now as I try to track down someone I barely know, but thought — despite myriad red flags— that I could help. I feel so naive, but I really hate giving up Whats tryin to make friend people, no matter what…But I will have to this time, as he just sent me the most horrible and told me he was killing himself.
After calling back again several times, I get through to his friend who sounds very nice, but also seems to understand right away my concern.Whats tryin to make friend
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